This means it’s over for good. Stop lying to yourself about what you want vs. what you're really doing. Honestly, please trust me when I say that no good can come of this situation. Get the help you need from a therapist near you–a FREE service from Psychology Today. You have to consider the concept that you're not an angel, and and sometimes your very presence could make things worse. Maturity is realizing your own limitations and letting someone else go, rather than dragging them through the mud with you. Why would you spend your time worrying about another divine being with his own path when you can learn something new, like woodworking or a sport? But since this isn't one of those times, saving your relationship isn't in your wheelhouse. If you're drunk. You could tell yourself all the ways you're trying to "be a good human being" and "care about him as a person," but you would be lying to yourself. If you're old enough to drink, you're old enough to know better than to drink AND text your ex. Don’t let your raging emotions get the better of you. In reality, the only legitimate reason for contact not to be avoided is if you have children and must communicate about co-parenting responsibilities—and even in that case, you should maintain boundaries by limiting conversation to matters pertaining to the children. It’s surprising but so much the better! I know it sounds sentimental. 1. You will feel sad, you will feel angry, you will feel a sense of shock that your life has taken this turn. Here's the ways to tell your ex to stop contacting you. We have heard far too many stories of an ex asking to get back together and the girl missing her chance because she was doing the No Contact Rule. Your acceptance and lack of "checking in" don't make you an uncaring monster. Unfortunately, he meant "alone" — no more relationship or contact with you at all. You do care about him as a person, and that’s why you're leaving him alone. That means you probably shouldn't reach out just because you're lonely, sad, or horny.You also probably shouldn't reach out just to reiterate your point of view about what went wrong in the relationship, unless you really believe it'll help your ex feel better or grow. It may not be possible to commit to 100% radio-silence (you might live, work, or study together.) However, it is a mistake to remain, or attempt to remain, in contact with an ex in the hope of achieving a chance to do things over. Like a character in Groundhog Day, you'll wake up with the same fears and upsets about yourself as you did the day before. Life is complex though. You could “do no contact” for one month, two months, three months, six months, a year, two years, 10 years. You were in fact thinking of the two ideas that I had mentioned above but your ex is getting back in touch with you for sincere reasons. 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