And you well your not seeing clearly. He has a child before our relationship and he pays child support for that child. If the child?s mother receives welfare benefits, the child support attorney will also have to agree to the amount that differs from the child support guidelines. He always has an excuse as to why he can’t or won’t pay for half of insurance or daycare or extracurricular activities. I’d get advice from an attorney. She sends him an invoice every month, where she spends thousands on medical bills for a 13-year old and a 19-year old. * Get a grip. The child also would not live at home for last year or more of HS , the evil woman would not give him any money to help him . to make sure her job is stable before they modify child support, • Sue him for CS. The reason I ask is that I could use some information regarding Florida Law. As a Mother of 3 and a step-mother of 2, I am very familiar with both the struggles of being a single mother as well as the devastation of ridiculous CS. None of them have made it past ONE motion due to his ex wife and all her craziness. Pure and simple. Where do you live,because I live in California. If you have any debt pay it off Things should be split straight down the middle unless the man..or woman shows they cannot handle their responsibilities. Try Louisiana it’s 68%! You need a better lawyer…. Trouble is guys are still inflicting lots of emotional damage to both wives and all their kids. His income makes a difference. It’s beyond rediculous! Now my husband is working with a therapist who has totally made a 360 turnaround, but alittle too late. My resentment is definitely towards my husband’s ex, but it would be silly and a lie to say that any of the kids don’t see frustration when it comes to money and how the heck we are going to pay school lunches for my 16 year old Autistic son. In the end, all they care about is the kids, so fair or not, he rules in favor of those kids. This commenter can’t grasp the fact that she is actually divorced, and therefore uses a child as an object to attempt to exert control over two sovereign human beings, and obviously can’t keep emotion in check enough to respond rationally to a reasonable discussion. A close relative’s ex often did not send the money, forcing her to go after him legally. That $1K doesn’t go all that far for two children, who also need a home big enough for them in a safe place, new clothing and shoes and coats (sorry, hand-me-downs don’t cover it all), etc. If you have a great job and do not need his support, then you really are in no position to be commenting on child support anyhow, you do not know that his ex wife does not need the money? Was the trust fund not brought up at his orginal hearing? I still pay the support and insurance.. Note to men out there single, in a relationship or married protect yourself DO NOT RELY on your partner for birth control protection. Why the automatic assumption that the guy is the dead beat or the one who “ruined” the marriage? that’s doesn’t happen because it’s all about the money. I rely on him for rides. If one parent earns $25K and the other makes $125K, splitting 50-50 is ridiculous. The ex will still get a good chunk of his income and if you’re lucky he’ll get to keep $75-150 of his money each month to raise your own child. Plain and simple. There are many situation but most people in the system are young kids early in adulthood who had unprotected sex. Cost of living raise? The men that are trying to do the right thing and actually take care of their kids and be a good dad are the ones that get screwed. Absolutely full of would have should have could have bs. I am also like you 27, wanting a child of my own, wanting to get off night shift but unable to do so because I have to pay the bills my husband can’t help with and he could get another job but heaven forbid they will just take more money. Still to this day my ex husband owes me 17,000 in bak support which I will never see due to him playing the system! As far as the court and state is concerned you’ll be divorced and the payment should go down. I dunno.). What I do receive is a heavy financial burden of having to raise children on my own_ with no help from the other sexual participant of this ordeal. Now he gets to live off of $2400 a month which will end up going down to $2100 a month after she gets her full child support, and she will live off of a total of $4300 (wages, supplement from ex husbands disability, and child support), not including the extra she gets from the government towards the kids every month. The time sacrifice you make for his children is only two months out of the year. Before you open your mouth to judge other people step in their shoes. Hopefully we’ll see some change in the system in the future. Now they argue about money. Yes, he pays even more than he did then because he makes a lot more; but his take home pay after child support is also a lot higher, which makes a difference in our household. It’s makes it hard for these relationships. Most states do not take into account a spouses income and only use half the value of jointly owned property as assets. He feels that he should be able to pay me what he feels is fare and have the rest for his new family, but I feel like that is messed up. You accepted this man with his HX . Today we found out she is suing him because he cannot afford the amount she wants. I had watched my son for a year while I paid for his currently non-working mom to go to school, which we agreed I can go after she finished.